if you give kids zero restrictions they’ll become the nicest fucking kids ever who never do drugs or get into trouble i know because my parents let me do nothing but eat chicken nuggets all day and read hentai until 4am and i am a straight A student
Seriously though this seems to be the case with a ton of people I know, if you don’t restrict them all the time they actually do better and are mentally healthier
WHY DON’T PARENTS UNDERSTAND THIS?!?
I’ve only been telling this to people for years. Now, I will be honest with you, some rules need to exist, but they are mostly things everyone abides by anyway.
The key to this parenting style is really two fold. First, put your time in up front. When your kiddies are young contextualize things. Instill in the kids what is wrong and right. Don’t just let your seven year old watch gruesome movies without context. Other than that, be open with your kids. Talk to them about drugs and sex *muffled gasping at the taboo*. Seriously, it takes the mystery out of these things and all of a sudden most kids really don’t feel the need to go out and experiment for themselves. Also, your kids will be 110% more comfortable about asking you questions instead of taking risks without any prior knowledge.
"But Tumblr user Bishop27", you say, "how do you know, you’re only like 20 yourself." Because I was raised on this platform and I gotta say that any of the risks I took as a kid were completely my own fault and stupid. My parents never hid anything from me and like the original poster, I’m a high-GPA student who would rather watch slews of anime than have a drug-induced sex party with my college peers.
If there is any downside to this parenting style it is that it often takes the excitement out of things you might discover on your own otherwise. Namely the opposite sex. Lets be honest, guys date early on because of the sexual attraction. Now that that period has passed I’m just like “ugh, dating”, “ugh, procreation”, “such a hassle, such a time sink, so boring”. Part of it is my personality, but part if it is that I just don’t find it exciting. Well, most of the time. I have a penchant for girls who have beautiful sword technique and girls who have different cultural backgrounds, thinking back I had a blind girl in my class once and I found her really interesting, too. But you get the point, it takes sort of off-beat and sometimes eccentric things to catch my attention.
All in all, though, 9/10 parenting. Would adopt for my own children.